10 Mattress Buying Tips for Couples

Dec 08, 2015 | by Kristian von Rickenbach

Buying a new mattress can be intimidating, and doubly so if you’re doing it as a couple. All of a sudden you have two people’s preferences and needs to accommodate, and finding a happy compromise can be tricky to say the least. Here’s a few tips to help you on your journey to a happy night’s sleep.

Tip #1: Talk It Out

Have a discussion ahead of time about what you like or don’t like in your current mattress. Is it too soft or too firm? Is one of you getting hot at night? Are either of you suffering from back pain or lack of support? With these questions in mind, our next tip is to…

Tip #2: Create A Game Plan

Are you both super busy? Consider a trial from an online brand or retailer and take advantage of risk free trials and free return policies. Are you more particular? Schedule an appointment at a showroom.

Tip #3: Get A Second Opinion

Try out a few of your friends and family members’ beds to get a feel for what materials you both like. How you enjoy the “feel” of a material can be just as important as how it performs – do you like the hugging feeling of foam or the bounce of springs?

Tip #4: Do Your Research

Once you’ve done your research, you can start looking for the mattress that’s right for both of you. In terms of the soft vs. firm feel of the mattress, try to find something right at the midpoint (compromise is the key in any relationship!). If the bed skews too far either way, one of you will always be uncomfortable.


Tip #5: Find The Right Support

Mattress support, that is. Look roughly toward the midpoint of your respective sizes. I your height and weight are vastly different, keep this in mind as one may need more support than the other.

Although it’s a common misconception, more support is not always better, it’s most important to match the level of support to your specific height and weight. But since you’ll be trying to match for two people, typically it’s better to go a little more supportive than a little less. Look for a bed that supports your upper and lower back equally, and keeps your spine straight as you’re laying down.

Tip #6: Talk About Motion Transfer

If either or both of you are light sleepers, or if someone is a night time mover and shaker, look for a mattress with solid motion isolation which will prevent the other person from feeling every toss and turn. Materials with solid motion isolation include most foams and latex while traditional springs transfer motion more.

Tip #7: Gauge Your Temperature Preference

If one of you gets very hot at night, look for materials that can help alleviate this -either springs or latex are both highly breathable and should help reduce night time sweating and heat.

Tip #8: Take Time To Adjust

Once you’ve settled on a mattress, plan to spend 2-3 weeks testing the mattress in your home. There will always be an adjustment period when sleeping on a new mattress, and you’ll both need time to get used to your new bed before you’re ready to make a decision on whether it’s right for you.

The key considerations you should be looking out for are: a comfortable feel with no pressure points, the right level of support that keeps your back aligned and pain free, the right level of motion isolation so you don’t feel your partner tossing and turning, and the right temperature level so neither of you are hot or uncomfortable.

Tip #9: Know Your Options

If one brand or model doesn’t work, keep other options in mind. Finally, make sure you select a mattress with a solid return policy that gives you plenty of time to try the mattress and doesn’t incur any additional costs for returning it if it’s not right for you.


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